Author Archives: Dr. Hugh R. Leavell

Interpersonal Freedom

FEAR OF FREEDOM   We have a curious relationship with the whole concept of  “freedom”, it seems to me.  Kind of like sex.  We love it and glorify it.  On the other hand, we deplore it and we’re afraid of … Continue reading

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Just Try Not Reacting

MAINTAINING A NON-ANXIOUS PRESENCE   Here’s a good trick if you can manage it.  I admit, it’s not an easy one but if you can do it, it will help you.  Just try to stay calm when your partner is … Continue reading

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Moment of Silence for Kids

    A MOMENT OF SILENCE PLEASE   Every now and then we deal with the issue of whether or not children should be allowed or even encouraged to pray in public schools. There was one alternative that I really … Continue reading

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Coping with Crisis in Families

COPING WITH FAMILY CRISIS   If you’re like me, you eat Chinese a lot better than you speak it.  Nevertheless, you may have heard, as I have, that the Chinese word for “crisis” is the same as that for “opportunity”. … Continue reading

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Severing Family Relationships

EMOTIONAL CUT-OFF       A man refuses to speak to his sister for 15 years.  The reason?  At the time of their mother’s death, he was left alone to care for her as she died.  Then, to add insult to injury, … Continue reading

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The Hardest Part of Marriage

MARITAL REALITY BASIC TO “FAMILY VALUES”   As a society, we seem to be acknowledging the cost of family instability.  We’re looking for ways to address the problem.  Welfare reform, teen-pregnancy prevention, abolishing the “no-fault” divorce, chasing down runaway parents … Continue reading

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Adult Siblings

ADULT SIBLINGS–A NEGLECTED BOND   If there is one family relationship we are most prone to neglect, it is that between adult siblings.  One reason is that this is a “horizontal” relationship–one between peers in which responsibilities are limited and … Continue reading

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Extreme Conflict Management

CONFRONTATION COUNSELING       The ultimate purpose in seeking psychotherapy is to become your own therapist.  On occasion, you may find yourself acting as therapist for your loved ones.  This is very commonly done by parents with their children.  In fact, … Continue reading

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Goodbye Wife

How Love Ends   A tragedy walked into my office.  This man arrived a year late.  His wife is leaving.  She’s decided she doesn’t love him anymore and she can’t go on living this way.  And he’s devastated. Last year … Continue reading

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Happiness Attitudes

HOW TO BE HAPPY   Most people want to be happy, or say they do anyway.  Trouble is, most people just lack the knack.  To be happy you have to maintain the right attitude—a willingness to be tickled by your … Continue reading

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