Category Archives: Communication

Just Try Not Reacting

MAINTAINING A NON-ANXIOUS PRESENCE   Here’s a good trick if you can manage it.  I admit, it’s not an easy one but if you can do it, it will help you.  Just try to stay calm when your partner is … Continue reading

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Adult Siblings

ADULT SIBLINGS–A NEGLECTED BOND   If there is one family relationship we are most prone to neglect, it is that between adult siblings.  One reason is that this is a “horizontal” relationship–one between peers in which responsibilities are limited and … Continue reading

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Extreme Conflict Management

CONFRONTATION COUNSELING       The ultimate purpose in seeking psychotherapy is to become your own therapist.  On occasion, you may find yourself acting as therapist for your loved ones.  This is very commonly done by parents with their children.  In fact, … Continue reading

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Intimate Communication

TALKING FROM THE HEART   Intimate communication is a two-way street.  Not only must you listen in a way that makes your partner want to talk to you, you must also talk in a way that makes your partner want … Continue reading

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Are You Really Listening to Your Kids?

LISTEN TO KIDS’ PERCEPTIONS   I am facilitating a conversation between a mother and her teenage daughter.  They had attended a counseling session the previous evening to discuss blended-family issues.  The girl is guarded and seems discouraged.  I ask the … Continue reading

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Your Partner is Already Telling You

YOUR PARTNER; YOUR TEACHER   Everyone would have a much easier time in their relationships if they would just go ahead and learn the lessons that are presented to them by their partners.  Or, if they would at least recognize … Continue reading

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Learn to Control Marital Conflict

CONTAIN CONFLICT TO MAINTAIN MARITAL BLISS   We know that every marriage includes some conflict and that an ability to resolve  conflict is necessary if one is to achieve a satisfying and lasting marriage.  Some conflicts are not readily resolved … Continue reading

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Family Rituals Contain Identity Messages

HOLIDAY RITUALS:  A TIME TO REASSERT FAMILY IDENTITY   Well, it’s that time of year again.  Time for families to come together and repeat the traditions that remind us who we are, who we belong to, the proper ways to … Continue reading

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Precision Loving

Precision Loving   If you care about the well-being and happiness of another person it may be said that you love that person.  But you can care very much and love a person with all your heart and still not … Continue reading

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Can a Marriage be too Harmonious?

TOO MUCH HARMONY?   What is a “good marriage”?  How good does it have to be? And what does “good” mean, anyway.  Can a couple fight a lot and still have a “good marriage”?  What if they don’t fight at … Continue reading

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