Category Archives: Conflict

Just Try Not Reacting

MAINTAINING A NON-ANXIOUS PRESENCE   Here’s a good trick if you can manage it.  I admit, it’s not an easy one but if you can do it, it will help you.  Just try to stay calm when your partner is … Continue reading

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Adult Siblings

ADULT SIBLINGS–A NEGLECTED BOND   If there is one family relationship we are most prone to neglect, it is that between adult siblings.  One reason is that this is a “horizontal” relationship–one between peers in which responsibilities are limited and … Continue reading

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Extreme Conflict Management

CONFRONTATION COUNSELING       The ultimate purpose in seeking psychotherapy is to become your own therapist.  On occasion, you may find yourself acting as therapist for your loved ones.  This is very commonly done by parents with their children.  In fact, … Continue reading

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Sometimes a Problem Doesn’t Have to Be

TURNING NORMAL DIFFICULTIES INTO “PROBLEMS”   That we are certain to have difficulties in relationships is so obvious it goes almost without saying.  When two different personalities come together to try to accomplish anything there is bound to be some … Continue reading

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Alternative to Fighting

Choosing Not to Fight       In the Japanese martial art of Aikido, the defender uses skill to neutralize the attacker’s force without injury to either party.  By accepting the attack rather than opposing it, the defender goes with the attacker’s … Continue reading

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Four Ways to Kill Love

THE FOUR HORSEMEN OF THE MARITAL APOCALYPSE   It has become pretty apparent by now that one of the chief causes of our society’s ills is the breakdown of the family.  The key to stabilizing families is making marriage work.  … Continue reading

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Emotional Abuse Can Be Subtle

ABUSES OF A SUBTLER KIND:  Witholding Love   I would bet that, more often than not, if you scratch the surface of a case of elder abuse or neglect, you will find a case of child abuse or neglect.  Where … Continue reading

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Your Partner is Already Telling You

YOUR PARTNER; YOUR TEACHER   Everyone would have a much easier time in their relationships if they would just go ahead and learn the lessons that are presented to them by their partners.  Or, if they would at least recognize … Continue reading

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Learn to Control Marital Conflict

CONTAIN CONFLICT TO MAINTAIN MARITAL BLISS   We know that every marriage includes some conflict and that an ability to resolve  conflict is necessary if one is to achieve a satisfying and lasting marriage.  Some conflicts are not readily resolved … Continue reading

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Parenting Teens Challenges Adults

ADOLESCENCE HARD ON PARENTS, TOO   When I was a kid we were very aware of the generation gap.  We called ourselves “freaks” because we thought we were different.  We thought we were having a revolution. Our parents looked on, … Continue reading

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