Category Archives: Couples

Interpersonal Freedom

FEAR OF FREEDOM   We have a curious relationship with the whole concept of  “freedom”, it seems to me.  Kind of like sex.  We love it and glorify it.  On the other hand, we deplore it and we’re afraid of … Continue reading

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Just Try Not Reacting

MAINTAINING A NON-ANXIOUS PRESENCE   Here’s a good trick if you can manage it.  I admit, it’s not an easy one but if you can do it, it will help you.  Just try to stay calm when your partner is … Continue reading

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The Hardest Part of Marriage

MARITAL REALITY BASIC TO “FAMILY VALUES”   As a society, we seem to be acknowledging the cost of family instability.  We’re looking for ways to address the problem.  Welfare reform, teen-pregnancy prevention, abolishing the “no-fault” divorce, chasing down runaway parents … Continue reading

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Extreme Conflict Management

CONFRONTATION COUNSELING       The ultimate purpose in seeking psychotherapy is to become your own therapist.  On occasion, you may find yourself acting as therapist for your loved ones.  This is very commonly done by parents with their children.  In fact, … Continue reading

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Goodbye Wife

How Love Ends   A tragedy walked into my office.  This man arrived a year late.  His wife is leaving.  She’s decided she doesn’t love him anymore and she can’t go on living this way.  And he’s devastated. Last year … Continue reading

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Intimate Communication

TALKING FROM THE HEART   Intimate communication is a two-way street.  Not only must you listen in a way that makes your partner want to talk to you, you must also talk in a way that makes your partner want … Continue reading

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When to Pull the Plug on Love

WHEN TO END A RELATIONSHIP   It was Woody Allen who said a relationship is like a shark; it must keep moving forward or it dies.  I think this is true with one important difference.  A relationship can live dead … Continue reading

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Dancing Together Enhances Love Life

DANCING YOUR WAY TO RELATIONSHIP HEALTH   Want to jumpstart your tired romance?  Why don’t you try ballroom dancing?  When you take your partner in your arms and move to the music you may rediscover some of the chemistry that … Continue reading

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Your Partner is Inviting You to Grow

NEEDLES OF LOVE   If you love or are loved by someone, then it is likely that you feel pushed or pulled by them at times.  Perhaps they expect something from you that you don’t feel capable ofproviding.  Or maybe … Continue reading

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Sometimes a Problem Doesn’t Have to Be

TURNING NORMAL DIFFICULTIES INTO “PROBLEMS”   That we are certain to have difficulties in relationships is so obvious it goes almost without saying.  When two different personalities come together to try to accomplish anything there is bound to be some … Continue reading

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