Category Archives: Parenting

Moment of Silence for Kids

    A MOMENT OF SILENCE PLEASE   Every now and then we deal with the issue of whether or not children should be allowed or even encouraged to pray in public schools. There was one alternative that I really … Continue reading

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Extreme Conflict Management

CONFRONTATION COUNSELING       The ultimate purpose in seeking psychotherapy is to become your own therapist.  On occasion, you may find yourself acting as therapist for your loved ones.  This is very commonly done by parents with their children.  In fact, … Continue reading

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Age of Children and their Divorce Reaction

HOW CHILDREN’S DEVELOPMENTAL STAGE INFLUENCES THEIR RESPONSE TO DIVORCE   There are many factors that contribute to a child’s response to their parents’ divorce.  It’s hard to predict how any one child will react but a major factor is the … Continue reading

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Parentified Child

LOST CHILDHOOD: the tragedy of the caretaking child       It is in the interest of every child to have a parent who is reliable, nurturing and mature.  Not every child is so fortunate. Often a child will take on adult … Continue reading

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Are You Really Listening to Your Kids?

LISTEN TO KIDS’ PERCEPTIONS   I am facilitating a conversation between a mother and her teenage daughter.  They had attended a counseling session the previous evening to discuss blended-family issues.  The girl is guarded and seems discouraged.  I ask the … Continue reading

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Emotional Abuse Can Be Subtle

ABUSES OF A SUBTLER KIND:  Witholding Love   I would bet that, more often than not, if you scratch the surface of a case of elder abuse or neglect, you will find a case of child abuse or neglect.  Where … Continue reading

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Intergenerational Coalitions

INTERGENERATIONAL COALITIONS   In an emotionally healthy, well-functioning family there are invisible boundaries that separate the generations.  The adults have their functions such as work, financial decisions, marital sexuality, leadership and other executive roles.  The kids have roles appropriate to … Continue reading

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Staying Together for the Kids

STAYING TOGETHER FOR THE KIDS   People who are unhappily married frequently tell me they would like to stay together for a few more years–until the kids grow up.  They believe, correctly, that their divorce will destabilize the kids and … Continue reading

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Growing up with a Single Parent

POVERTY, DISRUPTION AND SINGLE-PARENT FAMILIES   What is the problem with single-parent families?  Why do the children of single mothers drop out of school at a rate twice that of children from intact homes?  And why do their teen-aged daughters … Continue reading

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When Children Parent Their Parents

THE PARENTIFIED CHILD   We might devoutly wish that those considering parenthood would wait until they are psychologically ready before reproducing.  Babies have a way of appearing nine months after a particular encounter between their parents. Readiness is not a … Continue reading

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