Category Archives: Personal Growth

Purposeful Living: Lessons from an Emperor

LESSONS IN PURPOSEFUL LIVING   Marcus Aurelius Antoninus was a Roman emperor of the second century A.D.  He was, by nature, a sensitive, generous, affectionate man and a student of Stoic philosophy. The last thing he wanted was to go … Continue reading

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Early Marital Stresses

WHEN THE HONEYMOON IS OVER   When the champagne is all gone, the wedding flowers have long since wilted and the honeymoon is just a romantic memory, the real work of marriage begins.  In this stage, conflict can seem to … Continue reading

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Improve Self-Esteem by Faking It

POOR SELF-ESTEEM?  TRY FAKING IT   If you were born to parents who had healthy levels of self-esteem and who treated you respectfully, congratulations. This article is not for you.  This is for those who don’t feel good about themselves … Continue reading

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Anger is Just a Feeling

ANGER—HOW TO RESOLVE IT       Anger is one of the scariest and most uncomfortable emotions.  Observe an angry child and you’ll see how thoroughly it can take a person over.  It can make you feel and act like a desperate … Continue reading

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True Intimacy Depends Upon Separateness

INTIMACY DEPENDS ON SEPARATENESS   In earliest childhood our self-concept emerges from the symbiotic union of mother and baby.  Gradually it dawns on us that we are separate from our earliest caregivers.  First we learn we have a separate body … Continue reading

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Healthy Self-Centeredness

HEALTHY SELF-CENTEREDNESS   Once we thought the universe revolved around the earth. It does appear that way to a person standing on it.  Then came Copernicus, Kepler and Galileo to put things in their places.  We are not really the … Continue reading

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Adult Children of Divorce

ADULT CHILDREN OF DIVORCE   Divorce is a life-wrenching experience for both adults and children.  The adults at least have some control over their lives and the ability to understand what really happened.  After all, it’s their divorce.  But the … Continue reading

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Normal Struggles of Marriage

NORMAL STRUGGLES OF MARRIAGE   One of the most discouraging and, ultimately, destructive ideas people have about marriage is that it’s supposed to be easy.  It’s not easy and there are many good reasons why. For one, we always come … Continue reading

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Conscious Living

CONSCIOUS LIVING   In my professional role as a therapist, writer and public speaker, I see myself as some kind of usher, travel agent or tour guide on the highway of life.  What I really am is a fellow traveler … Continue reading

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Real Self-Esteem: Learning to Learn

  LEARN TO STUDY FOR EXCELLENCE   For the past generation, school systems across the country have served children’s need to be somebody.  By accepting any effort as adequate and praising any accomplishment, no matter how modest, we have tried … Continue reading

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