If you care about the well-being and happiness of
another person it may be said that you love that person. But
you can care very much and love a person with all your heart
and still not really reach that person. If you can see your
love as something that you give or do to your loved one
it becomes clear that the message must be received as well as
For your love message to be received the way you want it
to be, so that your loved one gets the maximum benefit from
it, choose your target. Then shoot your love right at it.
First, find out what your loved one cares about, what
excites them and gives them pleasure. This is done
through observation. Then praise or encourage them in that
area. It’s that simple!
When your loved one discovers that you care about their
passion and want to encourage them in it, they will feel
loved by you. Your love will have hit the target.
There are many ways to deliver love messages. Gifts,
acts of service, physical touch, time spent and attention
paid-these are just a few. Another way is through words of
Words are so flexible. You can custom tailor your words
to fit any situation. Your love message can be directed
precisely to the target, leaving no doubt in the mind of your
loved one that you care, that you enjoy their enjoyment and
grieve for their sorrow–and understand it,too.
Terms of endearment are all well and good. But they can
become routine with repetition and lose their punch. They
can seem generic and irrelevant to someone who is busy
attending to their passion. There is no message of
understanding delivered. You may say you love me but I’m not
convinced you even know me, therefore, how can I tell if you
really love me as I am or just love me as you see me?
When you take the trouble to understand how I see
myself, to know what is important to me about me and praise
that, then I know you are really paying attention to me and
not just feeling your own needs. Bullseye!